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How to recognize a melancholic?
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The melancholic temperament is identified by (1) measured and controlled reaction to a stimulus (2) the reaction is deep and enduring. In other words, he is difficult to excite, but once an impression is implanted, it grows so deep that it is almost impossible to erase.

An individual with the melancholic temperament is predisposed to reflection and solitude. He is the classic "deep thinker." Melancholy has a mind that won't shut off, and the amount of energy this temperament generates by thinking alone is phenomenal. His ponderings are thorough and far-reaching. With pleasure, he studies the past and looks to the future. Because of this introspective nature, he loves solitude and silence and seems distracted.

A melancholic will always maintain a Hyper-esthetic Idealistic Image. He is pious, prudent and extremely virtuous. The melancholic will base his action on concepts often so lofty that those of other temperaments will be beyond comprehending the motivation. Hence he is more likely to be legalistic and rigid.

The level of his endurance is very high and he willingly suffers necessary hardships and sacrifices for the Greater Good. He is a self-sacrificing person who will work relentlessly to bring about changes for the betterment of others. Combined with compassion, he has an enormous potential to change hearts and lives and, in fact, the world in which we live. They are excellent listeners and have great empathy for others. The melancholic is extremely soft-hearted and sympathetic. He counsels well and is a trustworthy friend. The melancholic is often a great benefactor to his fellow men.

It is the most dependable of the temperaments due to his perfectionist tendencies. His analytical ability allows him to accurately diagnose obstacles and problems, which often keep him from making changes - he prefers the status quo and may seem overly cynical. Their interpersonal style can be critical. They have difficulty giving praise and approval because they cannot bring themselves to say something that is not 100% true. They also are usually dissatisfied with themselves being highly self-critical. They can be very hard on themselves and hence prone to self-reproach. They easily feel guilty which eats them up internally.

Unwilling to settle for surface knowledge, this individual delves deeply into a wide range of subjects. He truly wants to master the topic. In his also work, he is very careful, detailed and thorough. This may be mistaken for laziness. It is not!

For melancholics, pride takes the form of tremendous fear of shame or humiliation. Although he really is naturally reserved, his modesty is compounded by exaggerated anxiety about the possibility of disgrace. He is self-conscious and easily embarrassed. Hence he will often represent himself at a disadvantage; modest and unassuming.

He is an example of great sobriety. The melancholic looks at life always from the serious side. He is a workaholic and does not like to spend time on what he considers as frivolous activities. He would rather perform a task rather than socialize.

He tends to detach himself from the environment; reserved and distant except to intimate friends. He does not form acquaintances readily; prefers narrow range of friends and tends to exclude others. He is very choosy about whom he chooses to associate with. He would rather prefer to work and play alone. He is a private and secretive person and not inclined to speak unless spoken to.

He does not easily find the right word to express and describe his sentiments. Confession is a great burden to the melancholic, while it is comparatively easy to the sanguine. The melancholic may want to express himself, but cannot. So they may be viewed as cold hearted. Their reserved nature may be mistaken for aloofness and detachment. He desires and yearns for closeness but it is very hard for him. He has problems discussing ideas, feelings and so forth. This may lead to misunderstandings.

The intensity of his relationships will be to an extent of devotion. The melancholic will not understand an approach to human interaction that is either peripheral or expedient. He will naturally assume that all human behaviour is based on his own consideration of lofty concepts. It may take years for a melancholic to develop any sort of closeness with those he meets, but, that done, he will be your most devoted friend or your worst enemy, and either will be "forever." Once harmed personally, exposed to grave injustice, or even seeing that, for example, those in authority have personal gain rather than the welfare of those they rule as their goals, his disillusionment will be strong and usually unshaken. Those close to him will have an ability to hurt him to a degree perhaps surpassing those other temperamental types will experience. Hence they reject people first if they perceive that they could be rejected and are loners.

Anger is common in Melancholics if they cannot live up to their own standards; or if they have been hurt or rejected; this anger is very deep-seated. He can hardly forgive offences. The first offense he ignores quite easily. But renewed offenses penetrate deeply into the soul and can hardly be forgotten. They are resentful and can be called "grudge holders".

Melancholics take everything to heart and are easily offended. Because he is touchy and very sensitive, severe or rough punishment only harms the melancholic. It can cause obstinacy, excessive reserve or bitter resentment.

Hippocrates referred to the Melancholic temperament as "the black temperament" No other color can describe this temperament better, for no other temperament is so tormented by "black moods" as the Melancholic. He can be thrown into a deep black depression by thinking alone that can last for days, weeks or even months. He sees everything from the dark side. The melancholic hesitates to begin projects; "there might be too many problems."

From what has been said so far, it is evident that it is difficult to deal with melancholic persons. Because of their peculiarities they are frequently misjudged and treated wrongly.

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